Summer night
Is there anything sweeter than a summer night with your friends as a teenager? Dropped off the teenager at the movies (after two quick changes — one into considerably less than she had been wearing just moments before, one with a little bit more, allowing that her father might be right about how chilly a theater would be). Minutes later, it turns out the local gang isn’t exactly the fact-checking department of the New Yorker, meaning the 8:40 showing of The Simpsons Movie starts at 10. So what’s dad’s solution? After much cellphoning to various parents, I cart four fourteen-year-olds up the street to a Starbucks, because it seems like caffeine is in order. Another parent agrees to ferry them back to the theater later.
That’s the non-urban life. Can’t just walk anywhere, especially at night. And the friends live all over town. When I was that age, we’d have had license to wander the village aimlessly until an appointed hour (which would have been well before 10). Of course, at that time the local theater was showing “art” films, which sometimes meant ’70s porn and sometimes meant art films, but in any case it was rarely showing much that 14-year-olds could see. And if we’d had a plan fall apart and were obligated to let the parents know about Plan B, we’d have needed dimes for everyone (for the payphones), and luck in getting hold of anyone, ’cause no cellphones and no answering machines, baby. We were way out there on the edge, man.
I have two OLD teens (one 20 yesterday, in fact), and neither drives. I’m nearly eight years into the chaffeuring business at this point, but with few complaints: I know where they are and who they’re with.Edge? In summer, I had NO curfew at fourteen! I suppose, because friends did, I wasn’t out significantly later than anyone else, though. I never remember so much as looking over my shoulder as I walked home at 10 or 11 p.m. I snorted with derision when a friend’s mother drove my 19 11/12 son home — three blocks — at 9 p.m.Plans B happened all the time, and you’re right, our parents were in on them before we walked out the door. However, we were responsible for coming up with our own Plans C now and again, when it hit the fan. In fact, I consider the conjuring of Plans C under extreme duress to be one of my greatest strengths. BTW, just got my first cell phone at Christmas. I’m still trying to figure out why I “need” it.